While certainly big changes can make a difference, it is myriad and consistent micro-changes that really ensure lasting self-improvement.
Similarly, it is the sum total of all the consistent small factors operating in your life that really make the difference, for good or ill.
For example, you could really hate your job, and blame it for the majority of your problems and unhappiness.
But I would wager that there is also a collection of habits, attitudes, beliefs, and micro-actions you live, day-in & day-out, that impact your life negatively more—even though you might not be aware of exactly how corrosive they really are (because they seem so trivial and small).
If those many small factors are not addressed, leaving your job to get a “better” one may not be the life-changer you may think it is.
Corrosive “small factors” would include:
* Indulging in negative self talk—not in a massive depressive way, but more that self-deprecating internal white noise that you don’t even notice.
* Unhealthy eating habits—not in a seemingly catastrophic way demanding instant attention by a physician, but rather a habit of eating non-nutritious “blah” foods, rushing to eat at work (at your keyboard!) rather than making time to dine, warming up a TV dinner and feeling completely disconnected from your food, etc.
* Negativity overload online—not in a “help I’m addicted to sad porn” sort of way, but just the daily exposure to super-negative news via your regular social media feeds and favorite websites.
* Stuck in monotonous routine—it doesn’t seem like a problem because it’s the way you’ve always done things. But you’ve done it so long you don’t even feel it anymore & you don’t remember anymore why you’re doing it.
What’s great, though, is that by being aware that all these small corrosive factors are bringing your life down, you can take equally small (relatively unfrightening) steps to turn things around.
So if you don’t eat fresh fruit every day—go do that. Get a fruit bowl and put it on your desk at work.
Or you don’t drink enough water—go buy a good water bottle & keep it filled and make it a priority to drink a certain amount each day.
Or if you have 2 or 3 “go to” places for lunch or dinner that you frequent—mix it up and try someplace new.
Or maybe you avoid the goriest/angriest news websites to visit first thing in the morning…maybe you read them later in the day, or maybe you don’t read them at all. Maybe you turn off the feed of that one Facebook friend who keeps posting these links to really angry stuff that just makes you angry. Maybe you find alternative websites that provide you with the news but doesn’t exploit it or you or their cesspool of a comment section.
You may find at first that paradoxically these “small changes” you wish to make are somewhat difficult to implement…because they’re so “small” and habitual you can almost convince yourself that they’re really not that important to follow-through on.
But follow-through in this is key. The key is consistency.