3 thoughts on “Video: Why You Should Be Yourself (By Me)

  1. I enjoyed watching the video. I think the balance between being oneself vs adhering to the social mainstream varies greatly from person to person. Some people do well always following the norms, while others couldn’t do it if they tried, at least not without great personal stress. Citing my own example (because I know it best) I grew up poor and without parental support, so I spent my life trying to please others (adhering to the rules) so I wouldn’t be broke and friendless. Now that I am modestly retired and I have personal projects that I like and have time for, I could care less what anyone thinks.

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    1. “Citing my own example (because I know it best) I grew up poor and without parental support, so I spent my life trying to please others (adhering to the rules) so I wouldn’t be broke and friendless.” I love this, because it’s so similar to me, and I think it needs to be noted!

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  2. At a very young age I experienced a traumatic rejection by my own mother. I was not good enough for the person who brought me into the world so whether I was good enough for anyone else did not matter. So I came to always know myself and be true to myself because I had to be, because I had no one else.
    I have spent most of my life assuming I would be rejected from the start so I rarely bother to try building anything. But through it all I did not try to hide myself but at the same time I only really share if people ask.
    If I kept anything hidden it was not from fear of rejection but because I had a strong grasp of actions having consequences that get you in trouble.

    However there is one area where I was taken in by society/media/social pressure concerning messages like “having a girlfriend/relationship will make you complete and happy”. And I always had severe social anxiety in that area. And it took a long time for me to recognize that I was aromantic and much of that anxiety was coming from trying to force myself into something I did not want.

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